My mom is annoying me to the nth degree. She was recently in ICU where they found out she has diabetes 1. This is the kind that they suspect comes from autoimmune issues or genetics.
My mother and father emotionally abused us daily as kids and i have spent my adulthood distancing myself from her. She is very high stress and super fucking annoying. We get along best when we have two week breaks and can enjoy each others company for an afternoon. We get along great that way I love my parents when I have the right amount of distance. Lately I have been speaking to her every damn day for the past four months and I honestly have been wishing for her to go mute so I can get a damn break. I’ve tried ignoring her calls but she will call my fiance then start texting, then call the home line and repeat 5 times each form of communication until she has my dad and grandma repeat the process. She also stalks us on facebook.
Today I called her up so I can get my birth certificate bc I have no clue why she still has it and I need it to get my marriage certificate as we only have 30 days until the day. I have mentioned it before and she keeps forgetting so today I told her I want it by Tuesday. I’ve been giving her time bc she is ill but come on. Her exact response was “what?! I just went there today. You are so irresponsible. I could have gotten it today.” My mother often believes we should all know what she is doing at all times. Then she says “goddammit i just stubbed my toe. You call and I stub my toe”. Again I have magical powers. Obviously I don’t bc she is clearly not mute yet. Then she tells me she doesn’t know if she can get it by then and tells me it wasn’t responsible to wait until the last minute to get it. Mind you she said a lot more bc she is the hugest drama queen in Kansas but I’ll spare tumblr the details.
I have been trying to be good and respect my dad’s wishes to not upset her but it is so fucking hard to not tell her to go fuck herself. So far since the hospital she has called my bridesmaid and my fiance’s family white trash, invited people to my wedding against our wishes (btw she didnt have an invite to use so said she was going to make her own), called me a bitch, told me that my husband to be and I don’t have enough room in our house for our child and were not responsible enough to have a child, said we were not responsible with our money, told me that her para would be a better daughter than me (when she “apologized” she said that I probably was acting/saying something that made me deserve it), told me I was fat, said we should cancel our wedding, said we should take our cats to his mom’s house and let them run away into the woods (implied heavily she was hoping they would not return and get eaten), told me I was overreacting when I called her for help bc I had been vomitting, was dehydrating and having a seizure and refused to take me to ER oh and yelled at me while I was seizing, she has told said that myself and my fiance are insane and that his mother is a classless gold digger, told my bridesmaid that my other bridesmaids friend was a worthless babysitter at our couple shower when the person was a guest not a babysitter, told us our wedding day was about the guests and not us, tells us that every wedding decision we make is based off emily post (mentioned her name one time and this bitch cannot get it out of her head), says everything we do with wedding is wrong, told me the wedding invite wasn’t formatted correctly, told us if she was oaying for someyhing at the wedding it had to be her way we told her we don’t want her money she said she was going to make the decision either way (admitedly I did give her a piece of my mind for that one but it was before she was sick). I’m sure there is more. Needless to say post wedding I think I need a pinata shaped like a woman with her face on it to beat the shit out of so I don’t yell at her annoying ass self.